I’m trying to be more intentional about my online activity — for my own mental and emotional health, as well as protecting my time to do other cool and fun things. And having time for chores, I suppose.
Social media is a double-edged sword for me. I love the connections and swapping of cool info and serendipitous discovery. I’m not so fond of my internal monologue and emotional response to negative content. I also can slide into feeling that everyone else is having a marvelous life with each other while I live alone in a dirt hole. When I start freaking out about negative content or my unworthiness, I need to back away from the computer or phone and go run around outside. I am moderately good at actually doing this.
I’ve also benefited from having some clear rules* about my own social media posts. When I can’t live up to these rules or I’m regularly interacted with others who are not, it’s again time for me to go run around the block.
- Be kind.
- Be generous.
- Share information, ideas, and cool stuff. If it’s not yours, share with attribution.
- Communicate and share without using automated responses, if possible.
- Don’t engage with meanness (unless maybe to thank someone for sharing their thoughts).
*I debated calling them guidelines, but I think they really are more than guidelines. But sometimes rules do get broken. So then I try to be kind and generous to myself even though I messed up and was a jerk.
**Okay, these are guidelines.